To Vaccinate or Not to Vaccinate…that is the question.

Recently a one month old baby in Lethbridge, AB Canada died from Pertussis (whooping-cough).  This is a preventable disease that is rarely seen in Canada but has recently seen 42 patients this year diagnosed with the disease in Alberta alone.  This is alarming!  Especially since infants under the age of 3 months have little to no defence against the disease and account for 90% of all deaths

VARN (Vaccination Risk Awareness Network) is a group that believes that vaccinations are unhealthy for anyone to undertake.  They will argue that subjecting your body or the body of your children to the chemicals in the vaccinations are what is causing autism, ADHD, allergies, and a whole list of other complaints. 

Andrew Jeremy Wakefield was the leading doctor in the whole controversy of how the MMR (Measles, Mumps, Rubella) shot caused autism.  However this has been debunked.  The only thing that they can medically connect to the vaccination is the fact that children that all ready have an immune or metabolic condition are affected.  It is like the straw that broke the camels back when it comes to these children.

 Just because a disease is eradicated or nearly so here in North America does not make you safe.  People travel to third world countries all the time where the disease is rampant and become carriers.  This introduces the disease back into our society.  In 2010 alone 91,689 cases of Pertussis were reported worldwide according to WHO.

I for one will continue to get my family immunized.  The idea that by not doing so I might have to watch someone I love wheeze and gasp for breath due to them contracting Pertussis is not something I am willing to take a chance on happening.


The Scare

Today I picked up my Monkey at Grandpa’s like I do everyday after work.  Today was an unusual day though as she was cranky and clingy.  I thought nothing of this as she had just gotten up from a nap.  I put her in her car seat where she proceeded to freak out and then puke, okay a little unusual but still thought nothing of it and went to pick up Unexpected Dad.

While we were waiting for Unexpected Dad she started to freak out again so I tried to rub her hair as that calms her down most times when what do I spy but a HUGE goose egg and bruise.

The Bruise!

Grandpa hadn’t mentioned any injuries so I called to find out what had happened.  He hadn’t noticed a bruise (her hair was hiding it) and couldn’t think of anything that had happened that would have caused that.  No big deal she could have knocked her head on anything.

Get home and what does she proceed to do but puke again.  So off we go to get cleaned up and I call the Health Nurse about her symptoms.  The nurse recommends I take her into the children’s hospital so off we go.  Again she pukes in the car…hmmmm.  We get to the hospital and are talking to the triage nurse when what does she do again but puke.  Needless to say we were admitted and in a room right away.  Called Grandpa to let him know what is going on and find out that Grandma got the truth out of Monkey’s Cousin.  Turns out Cousin had moved the baby gate for himself and didn’t put it back and Monkey fell down the stairs.  Grandpa was in the washroom so hadn’t known.

Three hours and a few x-rays later we learn she doesn’t have a concussion but a fractured clavicle.  She will be fine and heal well but will be sore for a while.  It could have been worse and for that I am thankful.

Children will terrify us with all the stuff they get into.  This incident could have been worse but wasn’t am I upset that this happened on someone elses watch?  Heck no!  Monkey ADORES her Grandpa!!!  She may not want me to go in the mornings but she sure does not want to leave Grandpa when I go to pick her up.  Am I worried this could happen again?  A little but who wouldn’t, however, she is an active curious child and will probably hurt herself again.  I cannot worry or I will go crazy.

What is the scariest incident you have ever had happen with your children.

Failure to Thrive

No parent wants to hear that their child is failing to thrive.  Recently I heard this used for my daughter, and let me tell you I was NOT happy.  My little monkey is a mover and shaker.  She is into EVERYTHING and doesn’t hold still longer than 5 minutes unless she is sleeping or strapped into her high chair or car seat and even then she is moving.  I can only get her to eat so much food without forcing her to eat, which is not something I would even consider doing as this could create adverse associations with food.

My monkey is petite.  She is healthy, active, smart (sometimes to smart), and amazingly perfect!  But because she is not gaining weight like “normal” children she is failing to thrive.  This made me feel like I was a horrible parent because my little girl at almost 16 months didn’t weigh 22 lbs+ and it was somehow my fault.  This is a terrible feeling for any parent when you know you are doing the best possible for your child.

So now we are back to formula, pediasure, toddler drinks, and high fat (while being healthy) foods to help increase her calorie intake just so she can be “normal”.  What is normal though?  Is it every child gaining weight the same way if they are fed well?  Is it developing at the same rate as other children their age?  I happen to disagree.  Everything that you read about developmental milestones in your child’s life comes with the disclaimer “some children will do this later and some will do it earlier, this is just a guideline”.  So that being said why can’t the way children gain and grow be different as long as they are healthy and being feed well?  Why make the parents feel like they are the worst parents in the world just because your child isn’t “normal”.

I will do as the doctors have suggested just so that I am not labeled a “bad mother” for believing that my child will not starve herself.  I hate having her clumped in with the “normal” kids even though I know that every child is different.  Have you been made to feel like a bad parent just because your child wasn’t “normal”

The power of one

Today I read an inspiring story. 30 years ago a man started to plant seeds in a sandbar near where he lived, he continued to nurture and plant seeds despite being told nothing will grow there. Now there is a lush green jungle housing many animals and enriching the ecosystem in that area. All because of one man!

In todays day and age, especially in the industrialized world, we moan and groan about how one person can’t and won’t make a difference.  Change doesn’t have to be as large as foresting a whole area, it can be as small as making a small choice.  Something as small as turning down the heat by 1 or 2 degrees.  Change is always scary and we may not notice the effects right away but they are there, especially if everyone makes a small change.

In an effort to make an impact however small unexpected dad and I made the choice to cloth diaper. He was disgusted with the idea at first until I told him that we WON’T be cleaning the diapers ourselves.  I did research and decided I was going to hire a diaper service.  Happy Nappy diaper service is AMAZING.  You don’t have to do anything but change your babies bum and throw the dirty diaper in a bag they provide, put the bag out once a week and VIOLA clean diapers arrive at your door and the dirty ones are gone.  I have also NEVER run out of diapers EVER!  This means there are that there are less diapers going to the landfill and endangering workers lives.

This is a small thing that we do but I like to think that it helps make and impact.  What are you doing that may be small but is making an impact?

Teeny Tiny Baby Girl

Recently my daughter went for a check up on her weight. Since being put on solids her weight gain has slowed down and then she started walking. Well since then she hasn’t gained a pound. Should I be worried? I don’t think so and here is why.

My monkey is a go getter! From the moment she wakes up till she sleeps again she is on the go. Sitting is not for her and sitting to eat is a torture for her. She climbs and runs and laughs. Learning things all the time and in her own way asking about the world around her.

Eating as I said is torture for her as she has to SIT STILL! The horror I know. We offer her a variety of foods at all her meals and give her a variety of snacks while trying to keep them healthy. She eats what she wants and I won’t force her to eat beyond that. Does this make me a bad mom? I don’t think so, she all ready has her own mind and knows when she is hungry or not. Who am I to tell her when she is hungry or not.

My daughter is tiny, she is petite, and she is a ball of energy. Just because she isn’t gaining weight does not mean she is not eating. It just means that she burns it off faster than she can put it in her. I love my little girl and would worry more if she wasn’t learning or energetic.

Are your instincts as a mom better then the worry of a doctor? Sometimes. The doctor isn’t there all day everyday to see me pulling her off the back the couch as she climbs it, or her running away from me EVERY time I change her bum. The doctor doesn’t see her nibbling at her dinner one night and wolfing it down another.

To try and help her gain weight I offer her snacks and have kept her on the second stage formula. Hopefully this helps as I am tired of taking her to the doctors due to her weight or lack thereof.  Have you ever had a doctor question something in regards to your child and you know that there is nothing wrong with them?

The darker side of seperation

Recently a friend of mine left his wife of 8 years because of suspected cheating and the fact that most of the money that he made last year is gone and can’t be accounted for.

Unfortunately there are 3 children mixed up in the ugliness. 13, 5, and 3 are the ages and true to form for most relationships that go sour the children are being used as pawns.

I understand bitterness that the relationship that you said “till death do us part” is now done, but what do the children have to do with this? They are innocent in all of this and yet one parent will deny the other from seeing 2 of the children just because. This DISGUSTS me!

When parents use their children to try and hurt the other it hurts NO ONE but the children. They are sponges and by reacting and acting this way you are now laying the groundwork for ALL relationships to come for them. Putting your child in the middle and pretty much telling them that it is them or me that you love is selfish. Thay are both parents of that child.

I will say that if abuse, whether physical, emotional, or sexual, is the reason that you are leaving the spouse than the abuser has NO RIGHTS. Again the children are your first and foremost concern.

I think that too many people are having children for the wrong reasons. Not to say that our little monkey was planned but with the knowledge that we were bringing a life into this world also came the knowledge and acceptance that the life we had been living is now over. Our new lives were just beginning. Please think about that before you decide to have a child. Children DO NOT save your marriage or relationship!! Children make it harder to connect with your partner as so much time is consumed by them.

I love my daughter and would not trade her in for the world. She is my all! If me and unexpected dad ever did split, not one bad word would pass my lips in regards to him. He is her Daddy! The one to kiss the boo boos, scare the monsters, and give her airplane rides. He will be the one to stand sternly by the door as she goes on her first date, teach her how to drive, and be the example of the man she will tend to lean towards in all of her relationships. Just because I didn’t love him anymore doesn’t mean she feels the same.

The personal touch of scent

I have a hard time finding a scent I love. Took me years to find the perfect perfume and what do you know 2 years afer finding the perfect scent for me it gets discontinued. Since then I have been on the hunt for a new perfume to fill that niche.

I have tried cheap perfumes to expensive ones and yet to find the one that I love. All of the ones that I have are all right but not something that I would choose as my signature scent.  I really dislike super sweet perfumes and that seems to be a trend for a lot of the perfumes out there, at least the ones that I have sniffed.  My discontinued scent was Boss for Woman by Hugo Boss in a half moon bottle.  LOVED it and got so many compliments on it.

Elizabeth Arden..okay, Avon…doesn’t last. I just don’t know if I will ever find that replacement. What is your favorite perfume and how long did it take you to find the perfect scent?

Looking for a new face regime??

Recently I had the chance to try Burt’s Bees for Sensitive Skin facial wash and moisturizer for being a Bzzagent.  By using natural ingredients such as cotton, rice extract, and aloe it helps soften, soothe, and moisturize.

I was excited to try something new as I have sensitive skin that will peel, itch, or burn if I use the wrong item. As soon as it came in I put my regular regime away and got going on the new regime.

It took some getting used to as the facial wash doesn’t lather but cleans your face nicely all the while leaving it moisturized somehow. The smell takes some getting used to as there is no artifical scent added to make it more appealing, although that is appealing in itself. The moisturizer takes some rubbing to get it to soak in but makes your face feel wonderful! Again the scent takes some getting used to.

I have been using the products for three weeks now and I reaaly like them. The scent is still something I am not liking but I get past it for all the benefits that I am experiencing from using the wash and moisturizer. Not only is my face soft all day long but I have only gotten on pimple right before my womans montly time instead of a bunch. My pores look smaller which in turn makes me look a little younger.

I would definately recommend this as something to try out if you are looking for a face regime for sensitive skin that will cost you less than $25 regular price.  Head on over to their website to learn more about Burt’s Bees Sensitive Skin Line and all their other lines as well.

My Baby Girl is growing up

Nalani turned one earlier this month, it was a great and sad time. Sad because it means my little girl is growing up.

Just 3 days ago she took her first 4 unsupported steps.  Needless to say we were excited and so was she.  There is nothing like watching you baby walking to you with excitement sparkling in her eye with her mouth wide open and her tounge hanging out in concentration.  We were so busy being excited and getting her to walk back and forth between us that we didn’t take any pictures.

It is amazing watching her learn and grow but makes me want to cry.  I want to cry because I know that in a few years I will be getting the eye rolls and the MOOOOOOMMM’s from her.  Right now I am the most amazing person in her life and I would like to keep it that way.

It is also giving me baby fever…I am going to miss the cuddling that Nalani and I used to do.  We still cuddle but she is so interested in moving and exploring that we don’t cuddle for long.  I wish I had a pause button to keep her at this moment for a little while longer.

What is your favorite age for your children?

Hi Ho Hi Ho off to work I went!

Today is the first day of my weekend.  Last week was my first week back to work.  We had thought about me staying at home and being a full time mom, which I would have loved!  Unfortunately like a lot of families we need the two incomes to make it work for our family.  We were lucky though, we didn’t have to put our little monkey in daycare or a day home.  Grandpa watches her everyday and loves the time spent with her.

I miss my little princess and the time we would be spending together but I kind of missed having a life outside of being a mom.  The first day was the worst, thankfully I didn’t cry.  The week went well but I am sure grateful for my weekend and the time I get to spend with my monkey.

She learns so much everyday and I am missing it.  Soon she will be walking on her own and I won’t be the first one that she will be walking to, or even the first person to see it.  It is tough making the decision on whether or not to work, personally I admire and am jealous of those woman who get to be stay at home moms.

I hear all the time about how as liberated woman when we choose to stay at home and raise our families we are hurting all that woman have fought for.  I disagree!  Woman fought for the right to vote, to work, but most importantly the right to choose!  If a mother chooses to stay at home and be the guiding light for her children she is no less liberated than the mother that chooses to go back to work.  Why must one choice be better than the other?

I know some woman that went BATTY the whole time they were on Mat leave and others that bawled everyday the first week of going back to work.  Each person is an individual and we should accept that.  So next time you see a stay at home mom or a working mom remember they made the decision that was best for them and their family and you have no right to judge that choice.

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