Failure to Thrive

No parent wants to hear that their child is failing to thrive.  Recently I heard this used for my daughter, and let me tell you I was NOT happy.  My little monkey is a mover and shaker.  She is into EVERYTHING and doesn’t hold still longer than 5 minutes unless she is sleeping or strapped into her high chair or car seat and even then she is moving.  I can only get her to eat so much food without forcing her to eat, which is not something I would even consider doing as this could create adverse associations with food.

My monkey is petite.  She is healthy, active, smart (sometimes to smart), and amazingly perfect!  But because she is not gaining weight like “normal” children she is failing to thrive.  This made me feel like I was a horrible parent because my little girl at almost 16 months didn’t weigh 22 lbs+ and it was somehow my fault.  This is a terrible feeling for any parent when you know you are doing the best possible for your child.

So now we are back to formula, pediasure, toddler drinks, and high fat (while being healthy) foods to help increase her calorie intake just so she can be “normal”.  What is normal though?  Is it every child gaining weight the same way if they are fed well?  Is it developing at the same rate as other children their age?  I happen to disagree.  Everything that you read about developmental milestones in your child’s life comes with the disclaimer “some children will do this later and some will do it earlier, this is just a guideline”.  So that being said why can’t the way children gain and grow be different as long as they are healthy and being feed well?  Why make the parents feel like they are the worst parents in the world just because your child isn’t “normal”.

I will do as the doctors have suggested just so that I am not labeled a “bad mother” for believing that my child will not starve herself.  I hate having her clumped in with the “normal” kids even though I know that every child is different.  Have you been made to feel like a bad parent just because your child wasn’t “normal”


The power of one

Today I read an inspiring story. 30 years ago a man started to plant seeds in a sandbar near where he lived, he continued to nurture and plant seeds despite being told nothing will grow there. Now there is a lush green jungle housing many animals and enriching the ecosystem in that area. All because of one man!

In todays day and age, especially in the industrialized world, we moan and groan about how one person can’t and won’t make a difference.  Change doesn’t have to be as large as foresting a whole area, it can be as small as making a small choice.  Something as small as turning down the heat by 1 or 2 degrees.  Change is always scary and we may not notice the effects right away but they are there, especially if everyone makes a small change.

In an effort to make an impact however small unexpected dad and I made the choice to cloth diaper. He was disgusted with the idea at first until I told him that we WON’T be cleaning the diapers ourselves.  I did research and decided I was going to hire a diaper service.  Happy Nappy diaper service is AMAZING.  You don’t have to do anything but change your babies bum and throw the dirty diaper in a bag they provide, put the bag out once a week and VIOLA clean diapers arrive at your door and the dirty ones are gone.  I have also NEVER run out of diapers EVER!  This means there are that there are less diapers going to the landfill and endangering workers lives.

This is a small thing that we do but I like to think that it helps make and impact.  What are you doing that may be small but is making an impact?